Updated: Feb 9, 2021
Some things are too painful to talk about with others and almost too personal to publish online... They stay buried at the bottom of the ocean of our hearts for a while... leaving us with a concealed heartache to carry. We heal and eventually learn from it, but it takes a great deal of inner work, patience and letting go.
I believe that we go through life meeting an infinite number of people, and some bonds are more special, instant and deeper than others. I would call them soul bonds because they move you, challenge you and become part of you ; helping you discovering life, yourself and what relationships mean.
Vibrant and authentic relationships with others are the most beautiful thing in the world and can feel better than the air you breathe. If you've ever had these kind of bonds, perhaps with a friend, a stranger, a lover or a family member... and had to let go of it, you know what I mean when I say it's hard. I've been fortunate enough to have had quite a number of these type of relationships, both in the past, and still at present in my current life ; and I feel ever so grateful for having experienced them, and for continuing to experience them as I grow.
Amongst some of these truly amazing bonds, a few of them stand out in my mind still to this day, because they were beautiful and helped me shape who I am. I'd like to highlight and honour two of them in particular, by telling you a story.
I once had two best friends. They were like family to me and I loved them both very much. The three of us used to hang out a lot, and I eventually fell in love with them both. I chose to get together with one of them and for almost two years, we lived together and I got to discover the immensity of his kindness. We enjoyed talking art and all sorts of nonsense in between ; we used to laugh until our bellies hurt: he had a twisted humour, you see, and the wildest imagination. He knew how to provoke you, but in the good kind of way. He was the artistic one, the mysterious one and the intriguing one of the two. He was incredibly smart and had a whole universe of his own. He was by far one of the most generous person I had ever met and seeing life through his colourful lens was a joy. His heart was big and his walls even bigger, he wouldn't easily let you in. He was a story teller, a dreamer and extremely sensitive. He was complex, stubborn and nothing short of charismatic. He was a Pisces.
The other one was the adventurer and runs wild as the wind, somewhere were I do not know off. He was the rebel, the free spirited one and could put a smile on your face just by entering the room. He was the type of person who made you ask yourself the right questions, and gave things a fresh and meaningful perspective. He was a doer, a leader, and as feisty as fire. He was a Scorpio and clearly here to make the world a better place. His energy was magic and his intentions were pure. He was a humanist and a healer. He was passionate, curious and crafty. We had a soul bond like the ones you hear about in stories or get to see on screen in movies, and letting go of his friendship was one of the hardest thing I've had to do in my life. It perhaps took me a number of years before I truly let go of the what if's and could look at myself in the mirror and say that I was at peace with what we'd had.
I strongly believe that people that matter to you cross your path for a reason, should it be for a long time, short time or perhaps a life time(s). They walk with you for a while and dance with your soul. Through them and with them, you get to experience the absolute magic of this universe and the joy of being, sharing and connecting - these people didn't meet you by accident: for sure they are your group of soul mates, the ones that move you in a particular way and leave their imprint on your heart in this life and perhaps beyond.
Pay attention to these bonds, they may be here to teach you something or simply bring you love, healing and warmth. I am certain that we do not have "one soul mate" as the widely spread concept would have it, but rather a group of people that are linked to you, regardless of how long they stay in your life, what role they play in it and how the relationship evolves. We all have various folks, that either hold our hand throughout our lives or shake us to our core in a glimpse, either way: they are our soul group and let us be grateful for them.